A teacher once told me the viewpoint: “Being ‘Nice’ is telling the truth without anger”. I always liked that.
Last weekend, Morgan and i had the opportunity to coach a couple who were in a rough spot. They kept going around in the same loop and from 10 feet away I could hear this reoccuring ‘whine’ from both of them that vexed me. We offered our assistance and within an hour had dug deep with both of them and got them out of the loop. So grateful for their willingness.
The thing i kept hearing was that while they loved each other deeply, their communication patterns were, well, challenging. His masculine tone. Her feminine one. They did not match up.
This week, we talk about some tricks to make sure that you are combining being nice and real.