Tuff Love: A Group Coaching Call w/ Rob Kandell

20160124_ItunesIt’s an interesting paradox. We all really want to know how we show in the world but we do everything we can to avoid it. Its like an itch we want to scratch but also tend to ignore. We create secret covert alliances with our friends, families, workmates and enemies for them to withhold the truth, to make things “nice” rather than real. In doing so, we never truly know what people think about us. For some, this is okay. Maybe not for you.

Every week, coach, entrepreneur and teacher Rob Kandell will leading a group experience where he will speak his heart-filled, intense, tuff love. He will (a) answer questions posted to this event and via chat, (b) speak his mind plainly on topics of interest, and (c) coach brave enthusiastic volunteers in a group setting. Honestly, we don’t know what’s going to happen.

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016: The Power of Jealousy 02-18-2016
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015: The MRA Issue (*men's right activism) 02-11-2016
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014: What Happens when Partner's Don't Agree 02-04-2016
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012: The Wisdom In Temper Tantrums 01-21-2016
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007: The Tyranny of "I Don't Know" 12-03-2015
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004: Gas-lighting in today's world 11-05-2015
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003: Taking 100% Responsiblity 10-29-2015
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002: Self-Approval 10-22-2015
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